I offer couples counselling which I also sometimes refer to
as relationship psychotherapy. Usually
partners come to see me for a limited number of sessions, maybe 3 – 6 sessions
over a period of 3 – 6 months. Each
session lasts for 60 or 90 minutes, depending on the issues being thought
about. Homework is often set. Lesbian,
gay and heterosexual couples and transgender people are all welcome as are
married people and those who live together as life partners. Sometimes it is a relationship between a
mother and daughter or some other family members that needs attention. Commitment to the process by both or all
people from the outset is very important.
The aim is to improve communication between both (all)
parties and to develop techniques to manage conflict and to undo entrenched,
unhelpful patterns of relating.
Conflict, handled well, can be an important, creative part of a
relationship. Sometimes we have to learn
how to quarrel! This is especially true
when we have had poor examples of managing conflict from our own parents.
Sometimes people don’t know how to be happy together and to have shared
goals. This may also be addressed with
Some couples may have sexual problems or problems with
emotional intimacy. There are many
creative ways of addressing this difficulty and seeing a third person can
provide that extra perspective that makes all the difference.
No-one person is blamed and a satisfying outcome for
everyone concerned is always sought.